“They’re so so lucky you picked them…”
"How could anyone not love a little face like that?"
Love is hardly ever the problem, our adopted children's birth parents loved them dearly but in all likelihood there was something else that was going on that led to them becoming a "Looked After Child."
Some of these reasons are harrowing, but even so they were loved, and will be.
Sian Butcher/ BuzzFeed
I'm their Dad thanks very much, their real Dad if you really want to put it like that.
I'm the one that is doing all the dirty nappies, all the feeding, all the playtimes, bathtimes, bedtimes, stories, plasters, swimming/violin/tennis/karate/recorder lessons and everything else that a "real" Mum or Dad does.
It just so happens that my child has a birth Mum and Dad, or sometimes a tummy Mummy that one day, when they're ready we'll help them find out all about.
"They're so lucky they've got you."
No, not really.
They've probably been through an incredible amount of shit before they "got us", they've experienced more crap in their short lives that many of us will experience in our entire existences, things you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy, so, no, they're not lucky.
We, on the other hand, are incredibly lucky. We've been asked to help change this little person's life and given them the childhood they deserve, as normal a one as possible, and to shower them with love.
Sian Butcher/ BuzzFeed
They look like themselves, duh!
Everyone's different, we may share some genetic similarities to our biological parents, and occasionally we even look a little like people we have no direct genetic link to at all, we realised just the other week that my Dad looks a lot like Biggins when a concierge asked him for his autograph! They're definitely not related!
During the adoption process we may get the opportunity to see photos of – or even meet – birth family members, but don't ask us who they look like.
