Summer’s name would be “Winter.”

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1. Ryan would wear a tank top only four months out of the year.

2. No one would own convertibles.

3. Ryan would get in trouble with the law by not having a work visa.

4. Kirsten would have a dependency on mulled wine and spiked cider.

5. The Cohens would live in a condo in Toronto and vacation at a ski cabin in Banff.

6. Ryan would stay in the storage shed instead of a pool house.

7. Actually, Ryan would stay in their house because they have a mansion with 14
bedrooms anyway and it's expensive and dumb to heat a storage shed.

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“Being a black child in America means confronting the fragility of your life at a young age.”

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My debut novel was published this summer at a moment filled with profound grief about the vulnerability of black women's lives. This year has been marked by the distant but still painful deaths of black women I don't know — Cynthia G. Hurd and others killed in cold blood in Charleston, South Carolina, and Sandra Bland, found dead in a jail cell in Texas. As I've tried to make sense of these events, the only thing that I've been able to hold on to is God.

When I was a child, I didn't understand why my grandmothers — Oriel from Barbados, Ruth from Antigua, and Lily from Jamaica — were so prayerful. Today, I understand the concept of getting prayed up, the reason why black women need anchors in a world that sometimes seems indifferent to our survival and at other times, dead set on our demise. Now, face to face with the brutal deaths of women like me and the women in my family, I look to God because there is no other place where I have been able to find peace.

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I knew that my book's journey would be different than I expected when, just before its publication, my novel was mentioned in two takedowns of the unbearable whiteness of the New York Times summer reading list. At first I wondered, naively, why my writing was caught in the crossfire of these debates. And then I remembered the inescapability of my blackness, the way that race would propel me and my work into the world in ways that I couldn't anticipate and would have to engage. While I believe that writers have no social or political obligations beyond those they choose, I know that what will be asked of me will be different than what's asked of my peers. I write now in the tradition of writers who have lent their voices to social justice movements, including Edwidge Danticat, Junot Díaz, Roxane Gay, Binyavanga Wainaina, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, James Baldwin, and Audre Lorde. I am inspired by the youth-led movement in defense of humanity and against police brutality, embodied in the Black Lives Matter and #SayHerName campaigns.

The Sunday after the massacre in Charleston, I went to a church, the progressive Middle Collegiate, led by a black woman pastor, Reverend Jacqueline Lewis. I had been looking for a church home for some time. When I first visited I knew that this was where I needed to be — in a multiracial congregation that included artists, transgender folks, intergenerational families, and an out gay minister. That Sunday, the service broke my heart, already in pieces after digesting as much of the news as I could handle. Nine chairs were set out on the altar to represent the nine people who were killed in Charleston. And then the Sunday school children were asked to sit in these chairs in remembrance of the slain. I held my breath as I watched the children take their seats. The church fell silent; perhaps everyone was wondering, like me, if this gesture was too heavy for children. But then I remembered that, as Ta-Nehisi Coates writes in his book Between the World and Me, being a black child in America means confronting the fragility of your life at a young age.

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Baby got brushes.

So you love makeup a lot. Like, to the point where you think more about a new lipstick than a new love interest.

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And anyone dating you must understand how to woo you.

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And the way you flirt is going to involve nudes, naturally.

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In fact, you tend to relate most pickup lines back to your look of the day.

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Apparently, love at first sight doesn’t happen just on the big screen.

This is Helen Fisher, the chief science adviser for Match.com and an anthropologist who specializes in ~love~.

Every year, Helen Fisher, Ph.D., conducts a comprehensive study of singles’ attitudes toward dating and sex that surveys over 5,000 Americans. The people surveyed are NOT Match.com members, but are representative of the U.S. population at large. “We queried a representative sample of blacks, whites, Asians and Latinos, young and older, and gays, lesbians and straights from every part of the country and every walk of life,” she told BuzzFeed Science.

The data reveal a number of myths about dating, love, and sex. Here are some common myths about love that could use some debunking:

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Myth: If you initially don’t find someone attractive, you will never fall in love with them.

Reality: 43% of singles have fallen in love with someone they did not initially find attractive.

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Myth: Partners are curious about your ex early on.

Reality: 72% of singles do not want to hear about your past relationships while on a date.

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Myth: Singles rarely think long term on a first date.

Reality: 51% of men and 49% of women have imagined a future together while on the first date.

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Just being there for them is a pretty good start.

If they bail on plans, try not to hold it over their head for too long. Chances are they're beating themselves up enough for the both of you.

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But even if they do frequently bail – don't stop asking them if they want to hang out.

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Don't throw around terms like "I'm going to have a panic attack" in a cavalier way.

Saying things like, "I'm going to have a panic attack," or "I'm so depressed," can make someone feel like their feelings aren't serious or valid.

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Sometimes they're going to need to analyze things a little longer than you might, but try to be patient.

Like what did that text mean? And should they have signed that email to their boss with "Best," or "Kind Regards?" And do you think that Alice really wanted to invite them to her party or did she just do it because they have mutual friends?

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During the Brooklyn Nets’ first ever game at the Barclays Center in 2012, Getty Images photographer Elsa Garrison was getting elbowed out of her precious courtside space by a TV network cameraman. Small in stature but large in determination, Garrison held her own.

“If you weren’t a girl, I would deck you,” the camerman said later.

“Go ahead,” Garrison replied. “I’ll swing right back.”

In the photo wells, on the sidelines, in arenas around the nation, Garrison is often the only woman behind a camera. In the early years of her career, she sharpened her elbows against the more aggressive, taller men also seeking the perfect spot during an event. After 19 years in the industry, Garrison has only recently noticed more women shooting from the sidelines — but says the demands of the industry still pose a unique challenge for women in the field.

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Allsport Photography hired Garrison just out of college in 1996. She was told she was the first female staff photographer.

“I was like, ‘OK. Thanks, I guess?’ I didn’t know what to say to that,” Garrison said before shooting a Red Sox–Yankees game in the Bronx earlier this week. "I wasn’t thinking about that. I just wanted to shoot sports."

Wednesday’s rivalry game was the first she’d attended since late May. In the time since, she’s shot the MLB All-Star Game, Baseball Hall of Fame induction, the Women’s World Cup, the NBA and Stanley Cup Finals — among other assignments.

If you’ve read a sports-related article in the last two decades, you’ve likely seen her work. A frame of Tom Brady that Garrison shot during Super Bowl XLIX, for example, has “become the the default image” for Deflategate coverage, jokes Sarah Sprague, who works for sports gossip website Yardbarker. “Elsa's picture of a scowl became the shorthand for the entire NFL offseason.”

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When Garrison began shooting sports at her Minnesota high school, hockey was her preferred subject. Later, at the Missouri School of Journalism, Garrison shot the college’s athletics teams and noticed that during games, “most of the other women on the floor were training staff or cheerleaders. In the Midwest, it was just me and some dudes.”

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When she landed in Los Angeles to begin her professional career, Garrison needed to find a sport to cover. That’s when she discovered boxing. Sitting ringside, she says, brings the primal nature of the sport to life, she said. “Don’t wear anything nice though,” she warned about the fluids that fly during a match — including blood, sweat, and Vaseline.

When a boxer first leaves the corner, Garrison gets ready for her own money shot. “That’s when they’re all covered in water, and when the first punch comes, you get the water shooting everywhere for one of those spray photos,” she explained.

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In those early years, the Los Angeles Dodgers’ photo well was next to the visiting team’s dugout. Players would often lean over and ask what her plans were after the game. Nothing with you, she’d think.

Her fellow photographers, too, would test the limits of her tolerance. “They’d say something lewd, and I’d either ignore them or give it right back. They learned there’s nothing I could be shocked by.”

Those experiences shaped her approach to her personal presentation — “It’s not like I was wearing a dress and heels, but I had an idea of what it meant to dress as a professional” — and she now prefers a gray shirt and ponytail while shooting events. Mostly, though, “I’ve built a career on making myself invisible.”

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Garrison said she has only recently noted more women photographers focusing on sports, and the change is more noticeable in cities like New York, Boston, and Los Angeles. At Getty, there are still only a handful of women on staff who shoot sports.

There are more women in editing positions, Garrison says, but the demands of the industry create a conflict when a woman decides to have a child. Garrison says that none of the women who have left the job while pregnant have returned full time. “I don’t dislike kids, but it wouldn’t be fair to the baby" — if she had one — "or my husband,” Garrison said. “This summer I essentially left at the end of May and came back early in July. My male co-workers often ask that of their wives, but with the demands of the job, there are a lot of divorces in our industry. A lot.”

Garrison compared the time away on assignment to the long seasons endured by her subjects and their families. In Cooperstown, New York, earlier this month, Garrison noted that many of the inductees into the National Baseball Hall of Fame made sure to thank their wives for their patience and support during their careers.

From a row in front of the stage on a scorching August afternoon, Garrison shot photos of Randy Johnson, Pedro Martinez, John Smoltz, and Craig Biggio — athletes she notes were in the middles of their careers when she was beginning hers. She endured as they did. “When I started, I was the same age as the players,” she said. “Now I’m old enough to be their mom.”

We've all been in beautiful Alexander Skarsgård withdrawal since True Blood heartbreakingly came to an end, but things are finally starting to look up. He's commanding our attention once again in the Sundance hit The Diary of a Teenage Girl, the book-turned-movie that tells an honest and unapologetic coming-of-age story from a teenage girl's perspective — including her very complex affair with her mom's 35-year-old boyfriend, Monroe, played by Skarsgård.

We were lucky enough to have the Swedish star stop by BuzzFeed NY to chat about his experiences filming, including his very real thoughts about feminism and gender inequality in 2015. So if you thought you were already in love with him, prepare to reach peak Skarsgård obsession.

What attracted you to this role, and what challenges did you face when approaching this character?

Alexander Skarsgård: I would say that the challenge of playing the role is what attracted me to the project. I thought it was a really amazing script and a very unique story, and it made me realize how few coming-of-age stories are told from a girl’s perspective in such an honest way. When it’s a coming-of-age story from a girl’s perspective, it’s often very moralizing or very prude in a way. And it was just real refreshing to read something where the teenage girl was actually as confused and weirded out by her own thoughts as teenagers are.

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In terms of the role Monroe, it was a real challenge. I didn’t really know how to play him, and that really excited me because those are always the most fun projects, when you're drawn to a project and you love the script and you love the story and the character, but you have a lot of questions and you don’t have the answers. I realized it would be a challenge to try and play him in a way that’s not too predatory. To play a 35-year-old man having sex with his girlfriend’s 15-year-old daughter is definitely a challenge. I felt like if it’s too predatory, it won’t be interesting for an hour and 40 minutes, because then you just label him as a creep. You’d just be like, "Get away from him, it’s disgusting!" We wanted to make it more uncomfortable for the audience, more complex in a way. And make them confused a bit watching this relationship and maybe find moments where they actually like the guy, or at least understood him, or hope they would stay together — and then be weirded out by their own feelings that they felt that way. So I had a lot of questions in my head, and that got me excited.

People often stereotype teen girls, but this story gave a more authentic, honest view of a girl's coming of age. How did you feel about being a part of a film that’s breaking through those stereotypes?

AS: I was very honored that Mari sent me the script. It was really refreshing to read a script that felt original. Very often when you read a script it feels like a version of a movie that you've seen before — you're like, OK, this writer was clearly inspired by this. And it also made me sad in a way, because I was like, this is so great, how come there are so many adolescent stories from a boy’s perspective but when it comes to girls it’s so stigmatized and so prude?

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And this just felt so brave and unapologetic in a way. Meeting Mari, the filmmaker, got me so excited because she’s so intelligent and so passionate. I just called my agent and said, "I don’t care what else is out there, I want to make this movie."

What are your thoughts on sexism and gender inequality in Hollywood right now?

AS: I mean, it’s obviously a big problem. If you just look at the sheer numbers, in terms of how many female filmmakers there are out there, there are very few. But I’m optimistic. I think things are changing, and they have to change.

And the fact that we have filmmakers like Mari out there who’s so intelligent, so incredible, and speaks so eloquently about the issue that it’s difficult for people to continue to shy away from it, and kind of ignore it — she’s got a pretty bright flashlight in their eyes telling them, "You have to acknowledge this, this is a problem." And it’s not right, you know, we gotta do something about it.

What does feminism mean to you?

AS: I don't know how to define the word, but I think gender equality shouldn’t be an issue. I think it’s insane it’s still a problem in 2015.

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But again, I am optimistic and I think we’re moving in the right direction. I grew up in Sweden and I think that’s a good example of a country that’s pretty progressive when it comes to gender equality and equal rights.

What was it like on set working with Kristen Wiig?

AS: Even in those serious moments, we had a lot of fun on set. I was in a movie a couple years ago called Melancholia and it‘s about literally the end of the world, and it was one of the most fun sets I’ve ever been on. You kinda have to alleviate the tension in the way by having fun on set; it helps a lot. And obviously having Kristen, who’s one of the funniest people in the world, helped on set. She’s so good in the film. I think people will be surprised. People know her as obviously an amazing comedian, but it’s a really difficult part to play and she does it beautifully to find that balance — someone who’s so irresponsible and not a present mother, but at the same time you feel for this character. She does it beautifully.

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This film was based in the '70s, but if you could be reborn in any other era or time period, when would you want to be born?

AS: I don’t know, this was a dream to shoot a movie that takes place in 1976. Not only that, but it takes place in San Francisco, and we actually shot it in the streets of San Francisco. It really felt like we were back in 1976, because half the population there, they still think it’s 1976. So there’s a lot of interesting old people that live honestly as if it’s 1976. It helped when we were shooting to be surrounded by that energy and it really was a dream.

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What advice do you have for young women who might not see their own potential?

AS: Well, I don’t know if I have any profound advice. Being a teenager is so fucking weird and confusing for boys and girls, and even more alienating when you watch movies where you don’t feel represented, if you can’t relate to any of these characters.

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We’re not saying what she does in the movie is right, it’s just a very personal story of someone going through these crazy experiences and coming of age and hopefully learning something. It’s a weird time, and it’s weird for everyone.

What were you like as a teen? Could you relate to Minnie’s character in that you felt confused or awkward?

AS: Oh my god. Don’t get me started, yes. Everything from, like, the age of 13 to 37. I stopped being a teenager about three weeks ago.

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Of these three films/TV shows you starred in, which character would you rather trade lives with if you had to: Eric from True Blood, Tarzan, or Meekus in Zoolander?

AS: Well, Meekus dies in a gasoline fire, so that’s, not great. That’s a tough one actually. I would probably say Tarzan. Eric Northman has a lot of fun — he’s maybe less tormented than Tarzan — so it’s a toss up between the two.

Watch some of the visit here:

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The Diary of a Teenage Girl is now playing in select theaters.

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“Yes! I admit it! I’ve read all your essays and watched your standup routines circa 2009. THERE, I SAID IT.”

It's not that crazy!

Chances are, they probably have a public Facebook/Twitter/LinkedIn/Instagram, and if you already have their full name, wouldn't you want to, I don't know, make sure they're not wearing toe shoes in their profile pics or have comments in the vain of "heheeee no homo bro"? It doesn't make you creepy; it makes you genuinely concerned for your safety and, even more importantly, your time.

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It shows you actually cared enough to get to know them.

Why DO we look people up? Because we're intrigued by them and would like to know more. Because we want to make sure they're nice people who might click with us. Because there's a certain thrill in realizing that they too have a Tumblr where they only reblog gifs of William H. Macy. The intention is usually good.

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You won't have to worry about slipping up throughout the entire date.

A few drinks in, you start to get comfortable around your date - but you can't get too comfortable, lest you slip up and say something that indicates you totally perused their personal blog on perfecting mug cakes. No matter how relaxed you feel on the date (which is a GOOD feeling), you can't relax TOO much because you might blurt out something incriminating.

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And you won't feel like a big fake for pretending you don't already know certain things.

"Yeah, so I wrote this piece on how cats help us confront our own neediness in relationships."
"Oh cool! Tell me more."

Of course you know the piece. You wish you could talk about how your childhood cat Tofu prepared you for a cruel life of constant rejection instead of politely nodding while they summarize what you've already read, multiple times. But you can't, and secretly resent yourself for being such a goddamn phony.

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This week for BuzzFeed News, Reggie Ugwu kicks it in the front seat with Rebecca Black. Read that and these other great stories from BuzzFeed News and around the web.

The Unbreakable Rebecca Black — BuzzFeed News

Four years ago, she introduced the world to the most hated (and maddeningly unforgettable) song in a generation, was passed over by the music industry, and turned into a punchline — all before she was old enough for a learner’s permit. Now 18, Rebecca Black is too famous to be normal and too normal to be famous. So what does she have to smile about? Read it at BuzzFeed News.

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Born in Between — BuzzFeed News

Azeen Ghorayshi tells the story of M.C., a 10-year-old boy who was born with ambiguous genitalia, a rare condition that doctors addressed with surgery. Now, in a landmark lawsuit, M.C.’s parents are challenging the medical mainstream by asking: Why does a surgeon decide what sex a child should be? Read it at BuzzFeed News.

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Learning to Speak Lingerie — The New Yorker

Peter Hessler explores the burgeoning industries — most peculiarly, that of intimate apparel — run by Chinese merchants in Egypt. "Without a clear strategy, China has turned to a basic instinct...When in doubt, build factories." Read it at The New Yorker.

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Living in the Disneyland Version of Startup Life — BuzzFeed News

Nitasha Tiku explains how the Silicon Valley phenomenon of co-living is the logical next step in the race to monetize the "wantrepreneur" lifestyle. "It’s a simple and intoxicating proposition...When acting in service of a Big Idea, your time is too valuable to waste." Read it at BuzzFeed News.

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A man of many feelings.

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Y’all ready for this?

Remember Sparky from the iconic 2000 teen comedy Bring It On?

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OF COURSE YOU DO. He was the brutally honest choreographer captain T-T-T-Torrance enlisted and thus introduced the world to SPIRIT FINGERS.

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And since this is a safe place, admit it — you were slightly stimulated by his violent pelvic thrusts.

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Well, 15 years later, Sparky (aka Ian Roberts) is looking FINE AS HELL.

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Luckily, they have very few enemies.

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“Did you just punch me in the cervix?”

OK, bedtime. I am so ready for this.

Goodbye tiring day, hello comfy duvet! Who knew making a person could be so exhausting?

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Oh no, bladder. How is this possible? I just emptied you!

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Ah, that's better. Hang on. No. No, that's actually impossible. I can't need to pee again!

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Body, I'm about to have a newborn. Can't you let me enjoy my sleep now?

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Should I start buying conditioner in bulk or…?

First of all, you need to buy conditioner like four times a week.

Why is there not yet a tax break for people with curly hair? Why must we pay so much more for conditioner than people with stick-straight hair? Think about it.

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You'd sooner give away your Seamless password than let anyone near your hair with a brush.

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♫ All you need is love. ♫

They all clock in at about $5 per serving. More money, less dishes.

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Note: Cost estimates in this post assume you already have a few kitchen essentials on hand — like oil, flour, sugar, and spices. Prices are based on Fresh Direct prices when available, and various other online prices when not available, so exact costs will vary depending on where you live and where you shop.

Veggie-packed Southwest Pasta

• 1 box whole wheat rotini - $1.99
• 2 c frozen corn kernels - $2.40
• 1 green bell pepper - $0.65
• 1/2 medium red onion - $0.89
• 1 15 oz can Rotel - $2.20
• 1 c taco seasoning - $0.99
• 4 c chicken broth (2 cartons) - $6.60
• 1 15 oz can black beans - $1.29
• 1/4 c Mexican cheese blend ($4.99 for a 2 c package) - $1.25

Cost per serving: $4.57

Cost for 4 servings: $18.26. Get the recipe here.

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55-Minute Chicken and Rice Bake

• 1 jar Picante sauce or salsa - $2.70
• 1 c frozen corn (1/2 bag) - $1.20
• 3/4 c uncooked white rice (3/20 of a 2lb bag that costs $3.29) - $0.50
• 1 1/4 lbs skinless, boneless chicken breast - $6.40
• 1/2 c shredded cheese - $2.99

Cost per serving: $3.50

Cost for 4 servings: $14. Get the recipe here.

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Bloody hell, it’s about time this happened.

Bloody hell.

Definition: An exclamation. Usually used when you can't believe something.

Example: "Bloody hell, that brojob was brilliant."

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Git.

Definition: Generally used to describe an old, miserable man.

Example: "I asked him if he wanted a cake for his birthday. He said no, the miserable git."

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Bugger.

Definition: A tamer word than fuck. Can be used to express frustration or surprise, but also can be another term to describe all the bum fun.

Example: "Well bugger me, have you seen David Beckham recently? I'd let him bugger me into next week."

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Piss off.

Definition: Go away. Not to be confused with "pissed", meaning drunk, or “pissed off”, meaning angry, of course.

Example: "He asked me to send him a nude. I told him to piss off."

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You’ll definitely have Blake McIver’s body on your mind.

You remember Blake McIver, right? He was Waldo, the villain in The Little Rascals who slayed "L-O-V-E."

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Or perhaps you remember as Michelle's friend Derek in Full House, where he gave an amazing rendition of "Yankee Doodle."

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Well, now he's all grown up and still killing the music game with his awesome cover of Demi Lovato's "Cool for the Summer."

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Blake takes away some of Demi's edge and gives it a cool retro spin.

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Never before has toilet paper looked this good.

Every bathroom needs an open bottle of wine.

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Less is definitely more.

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You know you love it.

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So clean.

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Colors of love.

A pale gray dress works surprisingly well in warm seasons.

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This bride's two-piece brings an unexpected pop of yellow.

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Why not make your wedding a swank black tie affair?

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Ice blue is perfect on this simple, modern silhouette.

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